Day One
- Introduction of the presenter and Clarity
- Definition of Sexual Activity/Sexual Abstinence/Secondary Virginity/Consent
- Medical Model of Health-a holistic approach to health taught
- Key Concepts
- Every person is valuable, worth respecting and protecting.
- Sexual activity affects a person mentally, socially, ethically, and emotionally, as well as, increases risks of physical consequences.
Day Two
- Review previous program content
- Boundary setting is defined and concepts are taught
- Key Concepts
- Because I value me, boundaries are key.
- My boundaries are worth respecting.
- There is freedom in saying no.
- Ethical boundaries
- Ethics are morals and values which should be discussed with a trusted adult.
- Emphasis is placed on identifying and then talking with a trusted/go-to adult.
- Key Concept
- It is important to talk to parents or Go-To adults about sex.
Day Three
- Review previous program content
- Mental Boundaries
- It is explained that media manipulates and does not always reflect the unhealthy consequences of that can occur as a result of sexual activity.
- Pornography—defined and video shared regarding the dangers of pornography and addiction to pornography.
- Pornography viewing is unhealthy – tools explaining what to do should one view pornography are introduced.
- Drugs/alcohol may alter our way of thinking causing us to lack the control needed to make healthy choices.
- As a group, students practice creating an I-Statement when given a scenario dealing with pornography.
- Key Concepts
- Most media is meant for entertainment and does not give factual information about the consequences of sex.
- Viewing pornography steals from purity of the mind.
- Protect your mind and body by avoiding drugs and alcohol
- Social boundaries
- Social means relating to others.
- Social relationships happen face-to-face.
- Social relationships happen through social media.
- Key Concepts
- Saying “no” protects me and others.
- Private/Personal information should never be shared on social media.
- Emotional Boundaries
- Emotions are defined as a state of feeling which drives behavior
- Six core emotions are discussed
- Emotional boundaries include controlling our own thoughts/emotions
- Emotional boundaries include not feeling responsible for the actions/emotions of peers.
- As a group, students practice creating an I-Statement when given a scenario dealing with sexting/nudes.
- Key Concepts
- Unhealthy messages from the media manipulate our minds.
- Protect your mind by avoiding drugs, alcohol, and pornography.
- There is freedom in saying no.
- Private/Personal information should never be shared on social media.
- I can control how I respond to my emotions.
- I can control how I respond to other’s emotions.
Day Four
- Review of previous program content including a video which reviews social and emotional boundaries.
- Definition of Sexual Activity reviewed.
- Physical Boundaries
- A graph of physical intimacy progression is discussed
- As a group, students practice creating an I-Statement when given a scenario dealing with one-person pressuring another person for sex.
- Key Concepts
- Physical boundaries regarding sexual activity should be set ahead of time.
- Sexual activity is positive and healthy in a faithful marriage.
- Physical consequences and concerns accompanying sexual activity are discussed.
- Teen pregnancy statistics
- Sexually Transmitted Infection (STI) and Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STD) data is provided.
- Key Concept
- Choosing to be sexually active even once could result in a pregnancy or STI/STD.
- The idea that not all choices lead to the same destination is discussed.
- Consent is reviewed and emphasized.
- Abstinence and secondary virginity are reviewed.
- Students are reminded that I-statements are an effective response to an unwanted behavior but that “No” is always a sufficient answer.
- Key Concepts
- Sexual activity always requires consent.
- Abstinence before marriage is the healthiest choice.
*Each I Decide for Me (IDFM) program uses anonymous, matched pre and post surveys to confirm changes in attitude, knowledge and intended behavior change for the purpose of measuring the program’s effectiveness.